When did it become acceptable for parents to support their child’s outright disrespect for a teacher?
“My mom said you don’t know what you are doing and that this is dumb, so I don’t want to do it.” –child age 5
“Shut up!” –child age 9
“You can’t tell me what to do.” –child age 7
“I will bring my kids to school late if I want, it is my choice.” –mom
“I don’t like that you have the kids turn in the homework on Thursday; you should change it to Friday.” –mom
“I have two kids; it is too hard to get the homework done.” –mom
What kind of children are we raising when we teach by example that we don’t have to respect an adult or authority figure just because we either don’t like that person or because you want something done a different way?
When parents start to question, accuse and assume what the teacher is doing is wrong, bad, a waste of time, or not challenging enough and they do this in front of their children, the children start to do the same thing.
Do these parents not understand that attacking, criticizing, and calling into question the teacher’s ability to their job, without having the knowledge to back up what they are saying, just makes them look, hmm, well I can’t think of a nice word, so I will let you fill in that blank.
Not only that, but how does it make the teacher feel knowing that every day there are helicopters outside the room spying, listening, texting, talking?…it can feel like a modern day witch hunt! Do they think that these attacks are going to make the teacher really want to come in and go that extra mile for the students? Let’s face it we all go that extra mile, spend our own money, take away from our own family time but I would have no problem stopping all of that if I were treated like some of these teachers.
If parents want a personalized, tailored to fit their life kind of education for their child then they either need to homeschool or take them to a private school and pay for it.
Now don’t get me wrong here, I love the involved parent. I want parents around, helping me, helping their child, helping other children. We definitely want that home school connection, but there is a difference between an involved parent and a controlling parent.
The involved parent is there to support the child’s education and assist the teacher in the child’s academic success. The controlling parent is raising a child to go around saying “it is not my fault and my mommy even says so.”
I hope you have more involved parents than controlling parents this year.Those are my thoughts on helicopters…